exploring the 'b' - the struggle to be who you want to be
We live in a world where we’re more ‘connected’ than ever, yet it’s never been easier to feel completely disconnected from ourselves. You know the person you aspire to be, yet that version is frustratingly out of reach.
You may be an athlete who once thrived on competition, but lately, anxiety freezes you when it matters most. You may be a parent longing to be patient and present with your children at home, but exhaustion and low mood leave you feeling irritable and disconnected. You may be a leader of a company, but the pressure to succeed has become so intense that it has clouded your clarity and purpose. You may be a student, but chasing perfection has left you exhausted and unsure. You may be a partner in a relationship, but in trying to be enough, you’ve lost sight of yourself. In a world that is constantly pulling us away from our values and identity, the person we want to be can feel further away than ever. Recognising the gap between who we are and who we want to be isn’t a failure – it’s an opportunity to notice that this gap is a powerful catalyst for change.
What does being mean?
Being is about how we can show up as the version of ourselves that we choose, day-to-day – not for praise or perfection, but because we know that’s who we’re meant to be. Being isn’t just about existing. It’s about engaging in life deliberately – showing up as the person you want to be, not only when the stakes are high, but in the seemingly ordinary, easily overlooked moments that make up most of your days.
It is about living your values consistently — how you speak to the barista when you’re in a rush, how you respond when a colleague makes a mistake, how you treat yourself when you fall short of your own expectations. It’s like seasoning each moment with what matters, rather than letting the day pass by unflavoured. Instead of simply counting the hours, you’re letting each hour count — one intentional act at a time. Over time, those small, deliberate choices accumulate into a meaningful, values-led life. It’s not about burning down who you are and starting over. It’s about returning to the parts of you that matter most – your values, your purpose, your unique way of seeing the world and living from that place. You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin. You don’t need to wait until the fear is gone. Becoming who you aspire to be doesn’t happen all at once – it happens choice by choice, breath by breath. Some days, you get to be the best version, and on other days, you might not. Both count.